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En ocasiones te sientes desmotivado/a, con poca claridad de lo qué quieres y cómo lograrlo?
La motivación viene de adentro hacia afuera, las respuestas están en ti, pero a veces solos no podemos encontrarlas y perdemos el interés. Trabajemos juntos para cambiar lo que te impide sentirte en plenitud.
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Diana Avendaño
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Relationships can be quite a complex subject.  It is a fact that a lot has changed in the last forty years in the way people interact in a relationship.  In the past, men and women roles were more clear and defined and the couple’s rules of engagement and tacit agreements were assumed rather than discussed or negotiated.

Today, the time for prioritizing, clarifying values and negotiating has arrived. Today, couples need to willingly sit at the negotiation table and establish agreements and priorities that will support their life together.

So, what is the top reason that drives couples to have good or bad relationships?  Each other’s life views, mutual perceptions, different approaches to solve problems or summing, personal values!  If both have similar values and priorities, the relationship has a far better chance to succeed.

In my experience as a coach and psychologist, both personal and professional relationships work better when values, beliefs and goals are shared.  Often, problems originate from negotiating what is not negotiable, inevitably resulting in the emergence of “losers” and “winners”; and when that happens, sooner or later, somebody is going to regret that agreement! Just for the sake of “not raising problems”, couples may agree to something, that deep inside was not negotiable resulting in frustration, uneasiness, unhappiness and, ultimately, conflict.

A relationship cannot be happy unless each participant is happy on his or her own. Self-awareness and honesty with oneself is a requirement to enable decisions to be made in the best interest of each person.  Only then, people can take responsibility for their choices and its consequences.

In my practice I have seen how the fear of losing a partner ends up being the cause of the feared breakup.  Unnatural agreements reached by giving up non negotiable values tend to become a chip in the shoulder that bothers at the beginning, next turns into pain and finally becomes unbearable suffering. False agreements may lead to the loss of partners, friends, jobs and result in having to start a life path all over again!

My final relationship advice:  Clarify your values, priorities and standards on how you want to live your life. Define your ways, how to be treated and how to treat others. Provide your relationship partner with all that information and lay the basis required to grow and create a fulfilling and harmonious bond with each other.

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Now that the year is ending and many of us start to think about our New Year’s Resolution I have a piece of advice to share with you. First I would like you to reflect on your past New Year’s Resolutions. How many of them you have already finished? If you have done most of them, good for you! But if you have not, and many of those wishes, goals, plans, etc. have been postponed, started and not finished, or you just gave up on them, let me tell you one of the reasons this can happen and what to do to change that.

In my experience as a Life Coach and Consultant I work with people in the process of clarifying their goals as a first step. It is not always easy to answer correctly the question of “what is your goal”, the reason for this is that we are used to express them in negative terms. Let’s say that we know better what we don’t want than what we want. So we say our goal is “to stop doing something”, this is the first mistake. So take note: GOALS MUST BE EXPRESSED IN POSITIVE TERMS.

Positive terms mean that your goal has to represent your final result? Let’s say for example if I want to lose weight my goal should be… I want to be thin, healthy, weigh 125 pounds, eat healthy, exercise etc. But most of the time we will say it in the negative form: I want to stop eating, lose weight, I don’t want to be fat, I won’t eat chocolate.

When we express our goal in positive terms the mental representation will be the result of what I want, that makes a huge difference to help us achieve our goals. Try it! Think of the above and be aware of the mental images that come to your mind. The one that fits your desire is the one that you should use to set your clear goal.

So you already have your goal, now how are you going to do it? This is the next step to make it happen. Answering the questions of how?, when?, where?, who?.

The most meticulous you are in answering the above questions the better. These are the steps you will follow, the resources you have, the dates when you will do it or will finish it, the place where it will happen and who will be involved. So take note: BE AS SPECIFIC AS YOU CAN WHEN DEFINING THE PROCESS YOU WILL FOLLOW TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOAL.

Now you know what you want and the steps you have to follow. The next step is critical, this step is the one that if not done our goals may be abandoned, frustrated or left unfinished. This is to ask yourself the questions: what if something goes wrong, or is not available, or doesn’t work, or is not good for everyone involved? The answer to these questions will give you the information to be prepared for plan B, to have visualized a priory the possible obstacles that you could face and then, how to solve them will make a difference in your outcome.

When you have pre appreciated the obstacles you could encounter, then you will not be disappointed and quit when something comes up, you already thought about it and the possible solutions. So take note: HERE IS THE TIME TO BE NEGATIVE AND SEE THE POSSIBLE OBSTACLES, AND FINDING OPTIONS TO OVERCOME THE OBSTACLES AND CONTINUE TO PURSUE YOUR GOAL.

The last thing I recommend and personally believe is very powerful is motivation, at this period ask yourself, What for? What is the reason you want to bring about this particular objective. How will you feel once you have concluded and succeeded? Is there an important reason to make it happen, or not?

If your motivation is lacking, find it! To make this work think from a different perspective, as if you were an observer in a higher level. Occasionally the reason for wanting something is not meaningful, so it tends to fade away easily; the reason must be for something bigger than what you initially thought. For example let’s say that our former objective which was: … I want to be thin, healthy, weigh 125 pounds, eat healthy, exercise etc., was defined as (In two months I will weigh 125 pounds), if you ask yourself…What for? Many answers will come out: to look better, to be healthier, to be more fit…etc. But that may not be enough to keep someone motivated, but let’s say this person has a child and this kid wants to play baseball, and the parent wants to be able to play and run with his kid. As you see this goes to a different level of awareness, this reason may be a better motivator and will help in the hard times to keep the work and complete it. So take note: FIND A MOTIVATION THAT REALLY MATTERS TO YOU, IT SERVES A GREATER PURPOSE THAN THE IMMEDIATE RESULT YOU THINK YOU ARE LOOKING FOR. FIND IT AND YOU WILL SUCEED!

Follow the steps and MAKE IT HAPPEN!

If you want to be healthy you have to eat, five portions of fruits and vegetables a day, and remember, make it colorful! Eight glasses of water, exercise, meditate, think positively, declare what you want, visualize it etc. etc. And the promise is that if you do it all you will be healthier, stay young, be in peace, and have better relationships, prosperity, and more.

When I thought of all these theories going around for a long time now and so few people are able to achieve all, or any of it, I asked myself … “what is wrong with this picture?”

So are we doing it wrong, is it that we are lazy, not disciplined enough, not enough focus, lack of trust, faith, what is it?

All of the above has become also a way of life, always looking for something that works better, something to make us feel that we are working on ourselves, our own good and personal development, that we are part of the knowledgeable, that we are doing something.

But what is the main purpose of all these? Isn’t it being aware of who we are, and what we need?

We don’t need to be followers, we need to be leaders. Lead our own lives by trusting our senses, our feelings, our inner voice, our own wisdom. What’s good for you… no one knows it better than you. What it is you like is instinctive, but we don’t pay attention to that so much; we have the feeling, we know it deep inside, but we rationalize it, and send that inner knowledge to the background. To then, in many occasions say, I knew it! Have you had that experience before? I am sure we all have.

Be realistic, don’t hide the truth from yourself, we all know better.

So read a lot, learn techniques, theories, practice them, ask for advice, eat well, exercise, and drink water. But must important, stop, quiet your mind, and listen, observe, feel and be aware… then you will know.

You will know when there is a connection with, that person, song, food, practice, relationship etc. It is there, a feeling in all of you that makes it right. You make it your own. That is your path, yours, not the one on fashion, not the one everyone talks about or expect, the one that fits you and makes you feel at home, satisfied and in peace.

You are then in the right path, your path!